Peer Support Weight Loss


How do you get Peer Support?

Believers in the Law of Attraction, state that everything that comes into  your life, is there because you attracted it. Whether or not you believe in the Law of Attraction, you know that you are influenced by your peer group. Those people you hang out with, you become more like, or are influenced by.If all of your friends were athletes, it is likely you would be participating in activities with them. If all your friends are couch potatoes, it is more likely you will engage in passive activities when you get together – such as going out for dinner or going to the movies. If those friends are obese, it is also more likely they will eat buttery popcorn while watching the movie, than if you met up with athletic friends for a movie.

If you have a number of obese people for friends, and family, it is more difficult to lose weight because the same habits as led to your obesity are also controlling their choices. If you eat with health conscious people, it is less likely you will order the dessert when dining out than, if you were at the same meal with a group of health conscious athletic types.

What does that mean? Well, it isn’t like you can get rid of all your friends and family and choose new people to be in your life, but it does mean that you need to find supportive activity partners to speed you toward the goal of being more active. This is a process. At first, because you aren’t physically fit, you are not a match for highly active types.

Tell and Ask

A good way to start the transition is to attend fitness groups and look for someone within the group, who is also working on becoming more fit. Tell them your goals, and ask if they are interested in meeting to walk or do other activities.  Don’t be discouraged if it takes a few tries to find the right activity partner. As you become more fit, you can join other activity groups. Eventually you will have more active friends.

Tell your existing friends and relatives, that you are committed to changing your life. Encourage them to include you in events, but set clear boundaries of what you need to do for yourself. If that means you are going to workout and will meet them for coffee after the spectator sport they are attending — make a plan that works for everyone.

It takes Five

They say you are not likely to be any wealthier than your five closest friends. The same is likely for your fitness and weight. If the five people you choose to do activities with, go swimming, skiing, play soccer, work-out, and kayak you are likely going to have less problem maintaining your weight loss; than if your five closest friends watch movies, play bridge, attend spectator sporting events and go out for  all you can eat pasta night.

The question is do you want to be a spectator in life or do you want to live life to the fullest and then find the right peers to do it with. Gradually some of your friends and family will be attracted to what you are creating in your life and may want to embark on the journey to health and wellness themselves.